The 25 26 27 28 29 Things That Don’t Need to be Said Alternate title: “Share Your Thoughts Only if You Can Handle the Response”

The 25 26 27 28 29 Things That Don’t Need to be Said

Alternate title: 

“Share Your Thoughts Only if You Can Handle the Response”

This is a collection of things I hope I’ve never said.  If I have said them, I sincerely apologize.  Please forgive me.

*Caution!  Read at your own risk.  These words may be direct quotes from you.

**Seriously, if you have thin skin, maybe you should skip this part!

***For real!  Are you sure you want to continue?

Okay, you were warned.  I will not accept responsibility for your hurt feelings.  I am simply reporting.

1.     “He is in a better place.”

2.     “When Jesus returns, death will be conquered.”

3.     “Time heals all wounds”

4.     “You will get over it.”

5.     “You will be with him again some day.”

6.     “He is having his birthday/Christmas/Easter/insert holiday in Heaven.”

7.     “Aren’t you glad he is not suffering any more?”

8.     “Give yourself permission to grieve.”

9.     “Take all the time you need.”

10. “I know how you feel.”

11. “I don’t know how you do it…”

12. “My (fill in the blank with anything) died, and I …”

13. “He would have wanted you to be happy.”

14. “He wouldn’t have wanted you to be sad.”

15. “If I lost my husband I don’t think I could get out of bed.”

16. “You might be depressed.”

17. “Maybe you should talk to a grief counselor.”

18. “Go ahead and cry.”

19. “Have you asked the doctor for an antidepressant?”

20. “Will you call me if you need anything?”

21. “What are you going to do with (fill in the blank)?”

22. “I am afraid I will make you cry.”

23. “When are you going to get back to normal?”

24. “I miss the old Patti.”

25. “How are the kids?”

26. “You need to get out and have some fun!”
27. "What did you do to cause this death?"
28.  How did he die?  Was he alone? Were you with him? Was he awake?
29. "You're fine now."